Gstreamer shared libraries not found; Ubuntu #213

Hello,
I have the same recurring problem on my old laptop and newly built computer.
I tried different distros, all ubuntu based, the newest normal, studio and mate.
I tried the code example from here

https://processing.org/reference/libraries/video/Movie.html

replacing the file name with a test video which is in the sketchbook folder of my processing file.
the video library for processing 4 is installed.
the processing console tells me

can't load library mp3lame with -Djna.library.path= ~ /sketchbook/libraries/video/library/linux-amd64. Last error:java.lang.UnsatisfiedLinkError: Unable to load library 'mp3lame':
~ /sketchbook/libraries/video/library/linux-amd64/libmp3lame.so: file too short
Native library (linux-x86-64/libmp3lame.so) not found in resource path

and the same for

libnice
libopenh264

Further down I get

(Processing core video:8190): GStreamer-WARNING **: 17:29:36.473: Failed to load plugin ' ~ /sketchbook/libraries/video/library/linux-amd64/gstreamer-1.0/libgstopenjpeg.so': libopenjp2.so.2: cannot open shared object file: No such file or directory

and the same for

libgstaes.so': libcrypto.so.1.1
libgstdtls.so': libcrypto.so.1.1

then this

0:00:00.551363611 �[31m 8190�[00m 0x7fd080e95d50 �[31;01mERROR �[00m �[00m openh264dec gstopenh264dec.cpp:461:openh264dec_element_init:�[00m Incorrect library version loaded, expecting OpenH264 version:2.1.1.2005
0:00:00.551375126 �[31m 8190�[00m 0x7fd080e95d50 �[31;01mERROR �[00m �[00m openh264enc gstopenh264enc.cpp:1067:openh264enc_element_init:�[00m Incorrect library version loaded, expecting OpenH264 version:2.1.1.2005

I can see all these files in the folder of the video library AND in the root library folder. I have checked if the libraries are installed correctly and up to date through the terminal and synaptic and reinstalled them.
As mentioned I have this issue independent of the computer and distro.

My guess is Processing gets confused, because Ubuntu seems to come with the Gstreamer Libraries already installed.
I have no clue what is happening, I couldn't find anything on the web, but my computational knowledge is very limited.

I am new to github, so if my formatting is confusing I apologize.
Any help or idea would be much appreciated,
thank you!
best regards